PROVIDENCE, Rhode Island (AP) – Two weeks after Joshua Lipton was charged in a drunken driving crash that seriously injured a woman, the 20-year-old college junior attended a Halloween party dressed as a prisoner. Pictures from the party showed him in a black-and-white striped shirt and an orange jumpsuit labeled “Jail Bird.”
… [The prosecution] used the pictures to paint Lipton as an unrepentant partier who lived it up while his victim recovered in the hospital. A judge agreed, calling the pictures depraved when sentencing Lipton to two years in prison.
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In the early days of the internet, back when I was in highschool, my mother warned me over and over again about the dangers of posting personal information – especially pictures! - on the internet. Address/phone number/real name/town/highschool … those can all lead back to you, the real you, not the miZH0tR0d who’s trying to make waves in cyberspace. Compromising statements can hurt your job prospects. Pictures of you doing illegal or really stupid (read: fun) things can land you in jail. Naked pictures – well, they’re embarassing, and they’re blackmail material in the wrong hands …
So I’m glad I paid attention.
I did talk to a few stalkers, of course (what teenager doesn’t?) – but I kept my cool, and I kept my identity to myself, and somehow – I still have no idea how – I made it through puberty and the simultaneous rise of The Internets, relatively unscathed. Although, yes, somewhere out there, there are IRC records of me successfully – geekily – finding pictures of people, starting with their IP address. And even worse, someone, somewhere, must have a record of me signing on under a fake name and hitting on my then-boyfriend, to see if he’d bite.
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So no, don’t bother googling me; there’s no point. There’s just nothing that exciting about me on The Internets (yet).
But here’s the thing: If I hang with a crowd of my techno/sexo/psycho-logically emancipated peers, surely, someone in the crowd has posted naked pictures somewhere. Surely, somewhere, everyone I know is on record having a one-night-stand with the ugly guy/girl from Physics, trying the gallon-in-an-hour challenge, doing drugs, posting inflammatory messages to online communities, admitting an infatuation with Paris Hilton, waking up still drunk, face down in a gutter …. you name it. None of us is perfect. Everyone does stupid things – I’d even argue that doing stupid things – on purpose! – is the best way to discover yourself, even (sometimes) the best way to learn how to make good decisions. The most interesting people are those who’ve lived interesting lives.
So everyone’s done it.
And some of us have done it on the record.
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But here’s the thing; sure, there are a few nutjobs out there systematically gathering images for their private ‘collections.’ We call them stalkers, and we prosecute. There are a lot more normal people who’ll enjoy your images without ever trying to put names to faces; they’re not interested in backstory, as it were. Unless you become really, really famous (Paris Hilton, again), none of those images will ever matter, no matter who sees them.
This is not true of the ‘official’ images, the ones you posted on facebook, that you posted on your blog, the ones on your myspace page, the ones someone tagged of you on Facebook. Those are the ones you really have to worry about.
They’re searchable.
They’re easily linked to you (no deniability).
They’re clearly your fault – you put them there, or you were an idiot around people stupid enough to do so, and you didn’t de-tag yourself/remove them/speak sternly to your friends.
So let’s face it: being able to take images down is as important – if not more important! – than whether or not you took ‘em, or posted ‘em in the first place . . .
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So:
–> KNOW what information about you is out there
–> Don’t give info out, don’t get your picture taken doing stupid things – if you can help it.
–> And finally, above all, Remember Your Password.
You can always take everything down later, but not if you can’t access the site.
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And no, the boyfriend didn’t hit on my characters back, not once – though I now suspect it was my transparency, and his overinterest in video games that did it, rather than any particular loyalty on his part …